My Experience with World Religion: Buddhism

When I envision a Buddhist, I always think of someone very centered, in the moment, and peaceful. And I can relate to the need for inner balance because I have always been naturally drawn to Eastern practices like meditation and yoga. I grew up in the Midwest where I had very little exposure to other cultures, so I have no idea where that tendency came from.

Every time we visit Malaysia, we go to the Buddhist temple in Ipoh (my husband’s hometown). It’s a unique place because it’s built into a mountain and if you follow a walking tunnel, you end up in the center of the mountain which has been completely hollowed out by some geological process. The five-story building in the picture has more than enough room in this courtyard made by Mother Nature.

During one visit at the temple, I noticed this picture of the birth of Jesus:

I remembered iconography from Western art that included the Virgin Mary holding her baby surrounded by angels. All the holy figures pictured with halos to represent their divinity.

“How cool,” I said to my husband. “The Buddhists recognize Jesus, too?”

When I leaned in closer, the plaque labeled this painting as “The Birth of Buddha.” So if the birth of Jesus and the birth of Buddha are portrayed in such startlingly similar ways, how different can we, as humans searching for answers, really be?

Malaysia has an interesting dynamic, because it is a Muslim country with practicing Buddhists, Christians, and Hindus. My husband’s family has lived there for three generations and there has NEVER been war or terrorism in this tiny country where four major religions have to coexist. In fact, regardless of religion, my Hindu family will visit holy places and recognize the sacredness of the place. We go to the Buddhist temple and light incense, praying by the Buddha statue. Plus we get to feed these cute little turtles who live in the mountain.

St. Mary’s Catholic Church was next door to the Hindu temple where we got married. Muslim prayers from the local minarets echo through the valley at sundown. And I’ve gotten to see the bright colors people wear to the many Hindu holy festivals we’ve attended. I’m so happy that my kids will get to experience all the different types of beauty that these religions have to offer.


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*Originally posted on The Literary Ladies Blog

*Photos courtesy of Nic Walker from Flickr Creative Commons

My Experience with World Religion: Hinduism

I’ve been married three times. Yep, three times to the same man. The first ceremony was at the courthouse to get our marriage license. The second was a Catholic ceremony at Paradise Cove in Malibu because I always wanted a beach wedding. The third was a Hindu one when we visited Malaysia for the first time. PS–I’d never met my husband’s family until that trip two years after our first (courthouse) wedding.

While the Hindu wedding was much different than the Catholic ceremony, I definitely noticed similarities between the expressions of the two faiths in my first trip to Malaysia.

The morning of our Hindu wedding, we went to the local temple to honor Ganesh (the elephant god in the picture), an important deity to my husband’s family.

Then we took the supplies and headed back to the house for a small, intimate ceremony. The nuptials were in Telegu, my Hindu family’s language, so I had no idea what was going on. However, I did think it was incredibly cool that the ceremony was performed by my MIL and FIL along with two other women friends of the family. Catholicism has such a strong, patriarchal tradition that it was refreshing to be honored by women during this process.

Certain elements of the Hindu ritual were very familiar to me as a Catholic. They used incense (note the smoke in the picture), which is used often during Catholic rites. There were also tiny oil lamps, like the candles used in Catholic marriages. And what wedding would be complete without flowers?

Obviously, there were some VERY foreign elements. Take the picture of the two bananas in a coconut. I have no idea what that meant, so I made up my own explanation. Instead of two peas in a pod, we’d be like two bananas in a coconut. Anyway, it was a cute little memory.

My wedding sari was much more colorful than the white dress for the Christian ceremony, but I LOVED all that jewelry, wearing fresh jasmine in my hair, and getting henna on my hands and feet.

In the evening, we ate lots of delicious Indian food with my new family and friends. And that is definitely familiar to me as a Catholic, because we marry in the afternoon and party all night.

 

All you need is love.


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*Originally posted on The Literary Ladies Blog

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My Experience with World Religion: Christianity

SPOILER ALERT: Do NOT allow children to read this! Major Spoiler Alert! (Probably THE spoiler alert of all spoiler alerts).
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With the Christmas season all wrapped up and put away for the next 12 months, I decided to reflect on my experience as a mother to a six-year-old. People, I’ve never had to lie so much in my life. My little man, X, is asking questions these days. LOTS of questions and that means I have to make up answers… Ahem. Okay. Lie.

Exhibit #1: Santa. I am glad my parents lied to me about this. I have lots of warm memories of anticipation and excitement about getting presents and being a good girl. Thanks, Mom and Dad. I really do mean that. Santa was slightly scary for me when I actually met him in person, and still is for my own kids.

Exhibit #2: On a tangent, I must note that X screamed his head off (I have pictures to prove that, too) when he met the Easter Bunny. Those were a bad couple of years, but he managed to keep it together for Santa.

I can deal with lying about Santa and the Easter Bunny because these stories embody the things I want my kids to know and live by: generosity, hope, magic, happiness. But now there’s a new craze that makes me lie on a daily basis during the Christmas season.

Exhibit #3: Elf on the Shelf. X’s teacher has an elf on the shelf. We actually have an original elf on the shelf from the 60s, but I chose to remain blissfully ignorant of this elf on the shelf phenom until it hit close to home. It started with X-man’s daily report about Snowball (the classroom elf). He’d follow up his report with questions about OUR sedentary elf. It went a little something like this.

X: Today, Snowball left everyone gummy bears while we were at P.E.

Me: Wow. (Notice the short response so as not to trip up on my ignorance).

X: Why doesn’t our elf on the shelf work?

My subconscious: Anything you say will be a lie.

Me: [Squirms in chair]. We must have forgotten to activate it.

My subconscious: Liar! Liar McLiar-ton! This is your child for God’s sake.

X: [Considers.] Hmm. How do we activate it?

MePlease, make it stop! Make the questions stop. I don’t know. Let me look it up on the Internet.
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Note: The information I have put together is this. The Elf on the Shelf watches and listens all day long (slightly creepy). Then it reports back to Santa at the North Pole nightly (slightly like Communist Russia and the KGB). To help it fly, you must put a dish of sugar out for it. The elf needs a name. Ours was going to be Crazy, but we settled with Bud. (Fair enough, an elf does need a name). When the elf flies back every night, it lands somewhere else in the house, so the kids have to find it the next day. (One more thing for me to remember to do. Not a big thing. But a thing nonetheless. Not to mention, I also feel like I’m lying. Again.) An elf on the shelf cannot be touched by human hands. (Very good rule, elf on the shelf creators.)
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So I moved Bud semi-regularly. And once in a while he had sugar. But really I’m still kind of struggling with the whole elf on the shelf phenomenon. I thought it would go away after a year or two of enthusiasm. But I think it’s here to stay for the duration of my two kids’ childhoods.

I’m struggling and here are my inner thoughts about Bud the elf: Why do I have to do ONE MORE thing over the holiday season? I have a baby. I’m BUSY. I also don’t want to have to lie on a daily basis about our elf.

But then there’s the Christmas and wonder part of me that’s thinking…

We can make memories. It’s so sweet when they’re little. They believe in magic. Deep down, I believe in magic too. And I LOVE Christmas. I break out the Christmas music in July just to get a taste of it and then start playing the stuff everyday after Thanksgiving (sometimes after Halloween). Decorating the Christmas tree has become more fun every year as X gets more patience and enthusiasm for the project. It’s fun to watch him and hubby decorate our front yard with lights. Christmas is fun, even though it does require some work.

So what have we learned here? Lie. Lie like there’s no tomorrow and then lie some more.

No, really, when I think of the effort that it takes to keep these traditions in motion, it makes me realize that we, as parents, are guardians of magic. These phenomenon live on because we put in the effort to help our kids understand that magic is possible. And in a world where real lying occurs–the kind that hurts people and causes war, famine, holocaust–we should feel okay when we make up stories to call into being all of the wonder of a season that allows wonderful things to be real.


*Originally posted on The Literary Ladies Blog

World Religions: Let's Explore

My husband and I have been seeking out new churches. And on this beautiful journey to find out where we belong, we have come across St. Paul’s Methodist Church. St. Paul’s runs Wednesday night classes where the kids do their own activities and the parents get to learn. Hubby and I signed up for the Christianity and World Religions class.

My plan with this next series of blog posts is not to reiterate what I learn in the classes. And I do not have the knowledge base (or space in a single post) to explain each of the world religions. That said, I do have personal experience with each of the world religions. On the one hand, hubby is from Malaysia, a Muslim country, which has practicing Buddhists, Christians, and Hindus, too. Magically, they live in harmony there. Also, his family are all Hindu, so I will share my photos and stories about faraway Malaysia and its cultural variety. On the other hand, I am from the Midwest of America. The town I grew up in has very little diversity. The town I currently live in has very little diversity. Actually, an arsonist burned down the local mosque in the town that I now live. Luckily, my family brought me up to love other cultures and I would say that most people in the Midwest are peace-loving and accepting of others.

The next five posts have the potential to ruffle some feathers simply because they deal with religion, which makes us face our differences. Dealing with “the other” upsets some people. That is not my intention. My intention is to share my personal experiences; those moments when my life adventure has allowed me to meet people of other faiths and understand their customs. Fasten your seat belt and enjoy the flight.


*Originally posted on The Literary Ladies Blog

My Experience at the Most Haunted House in America: The Myrtles Plantation

Now for my experiences at The Myrtles Plantation, America’s most haunted house.

2:00 PM–We checked into The William Winters Room and after, literally, dropping off our bags, we left our room to walk around the grounds. About twenty minutes later we came back and as we opened the door to our room, Mom and I were overwhelmed with the smell of gardenias. The smell had not been there before and I didn’t say anything initially because I didn’t want to be overzealous.

Mom mentioned, “Can you smell that?”

Mom didn’t know it, but I had just read some online accounts and one person experienced a strong smell of gardenias in her room, too. I recognized the gardenia scent because I had used gardenia sachets in my dresser for years. Sara Winters, one of the many owners of the house, spruced up the rooms for her guests by spraying perfume. It is interesting to note that the apparition my mom described in my last post was the figure of William Winters, Sara’s husband, and the man our room was named after. After being shot, William died in Sara’s arms on the seventeenth step. 

Additionally, legend has it that a young girl died in our room. She was very sick and was on her deathbed already when the parents employed the help of a voodoo priestess who put a gris-gris bag in the floorboards under this rug. When we lifted the rug there was a floorboard that had been replaced with an ill-fitting board. The girl died anyway and the black woman was blamed for her death and hung from the chandelier. There were certain places in the house where I felt extreme dizzy spells, specifically outside of our room. Dizziness affects those who are sensitive to certain changes in energy associated with haunted areas.

3:00 PM–Decide to get some rest before darkness. The room had its own thermostat and the vent blows directly on our bed, so we are very warm. However, we keep feeling cold drafts (drafty, old house perhaps?) and I feel a pair of icy “hands” cover mine on top of the covers.

Intermission: Not much happening while we were out on the porch until midnight, but we are having a blast hanging out and sipping liquid courage with a family of four from Texas.

2:30 AM–I am lying awake in bed, but near sleep. Mom lays beside me dozing. Suddenly the end of the bed starts rhythmically shaking from side to side. After thirty seconds of the rocking motion, I decide to wake Mom. I squeeze her hand, but she is out of it. Finally, I shake her and say aloud, “They’re shaking the end of the bed!” And the shaking stops as quickly as it started.

3:00 AM–Piano plays in another portion of the house. Only one couple has access to that part of the home and they did not touch the piano.

5:00 AM–A child-like presence crawls into bed with us. If you have kids, you know what it feels like to have a toddler climb onto the end of your bed, then slowly crawl up between you and your spouse, and snuggle in between.

7:30 AM–The ghosties rhythmically rock the end of our bed again. The movement is not a jolting shake as seen on the movie, The Exorcist. Instead, it feels like someone is rocking our bed as if to say, “Good morning sweethearts. Time to wake up.” I get out of bed and try to recreate the rocking motion, but the bed is much to heavy and well-built for me to shake it from side to side.

After describing my experiences, some have said, “I would be freaked out if something started shaking the bed or crawled into bed with me! Weren’t you scared?!” Actually, it was comforting. I have experienced living in a haunted house and some of my experiences at my home were terrifying, but the ghosts at The Myrtles seem to like having visitors. They provide reassuring touches or show you a glimpse of their world. These experiences humble me and reaffirm my faith in an afterlife. The paranormal reminds me there is so much we do not understand about our world…or the next.

Read about the experiences my mom and sisters had at this place in 2008.

Originally posted on www.camillefaye.com.


*Originally posted on The Literary Ladies Blog

My Experience at the Most Haunted Hotel in America: The Crescent

My mom, my sister, and I took an awesome girls’ weekend to Eureka Springs, Arkansas. First of all, I don’t know how they built that town, because it’s literally perched on a mountain with streets that are nearly straight up and down. Driving through the skinny, switchback streets I definitely prayed to the god of effective brakes.

We stayed at “the most haunted hotel in America,” The Crescent Hotel, which has gotten publicity in recent years from paranormal investigation shows like TAPS. The building is beautiful yet creepy, a la the hotel from the movie The Shining.

The Crescent opened in the late 1800s as a lavish resort for VIPS in the Midwest. As the years passed, it served as a college for young women. Then as a “cancer-curing” hospital which pulled in millions of dollars in just three short years in the 1930s. (Many of the ghosts probably came from Dr. Baker’s failed attempts to save people with his “miracle cure”).

The Crescent Ghost Tour (well worth the twenty bucks per person) gets you a good historical account of the hotel with plenty of ghost stories and even some demonstrations (ghost photos, paranormal video evidence, and a beeping ghost meter).

 

Creepy Carving on Fireplace at The Crescent

The most haunted room, 218, gets visits from Michael, an Irish mason who helped build the hotel. Supposedly, he fell to his death during construction in the area outside the door to 218. Michael likes the ladies and will sometimes touch them while they sleep–or push men out of bed (Ha!). Here I am with my pregnant self, wearing my rosary for spiritual protection and posing by the famous spot.

We did not stay in 218, but did stay down the hall where my mother heard a rhythmic thudding in the hallway right outside our door. When the hotel was a women’s college, the dean’s young boy fell fatally ill and sometimes he’ll bounce his ball down the hallway.

Room 3500 seems the creepiest to me–especially after seeing the picture that our guide provided. A woman will stand at the foot of your bed and stare at you, but most times only women can see her. So if your hubby’s in bed with you, he may think you’re crazy.

Room 419 is Theodora’s space. She was a tiny woman (we’re talking four feet tall) who worked at The Crescent and when you stay in her room, make sure to clean up after yourself…or she will. Some guests report that they’ll come back to their room after being out for the day and find their bags packed by the door.

 

Orb of Morris the Cat?

After the ghost tour, I decided to take some pictures of my sister who was petting one of the two resident cats. But there is also a resident ghost cat, Morris, whose framed picture hangs above this couch. I got this cool orb that I am quite proud of. Plus, in the making of this post, every time I viewed the picture it was positioned correctly. But each time I downloaded it to Blogger, it showed up rotated! I’ll take it to mean that the ghosts approve of this post.

Originally posted on www.camillefaye.com.

Read more about my haunting experiences at America’s most haunted house, The Myrtles Plantation, and in haunted New Orleans.


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*Originally posted on The Literary Ladies Blog

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Kindergarten and Mommy's Existential Crisis

I wrote this blog post when my son started Kindergarten. It's been some years now, but the sentiment is still the same. My kiddos are my greatest creation and here's a little reflection on what it has meant to me to be a WAHM (write at home mom):


My big boy starts Kindergarten today. Whooooppppeeee! Did I just write that? Oh yes I did. I am not one of those moms who will suffer from separation anxiety, but [sigh] I will probably cry because this is a big step. Since becoming a mom nearly six years ago, I have experienced the full spectrum of human emotion on the roller coaster called motherhood.

Things I’ve given up:
A typical career
Adult interaction
Romance (just kidding, but kind of not)

Things I’ve had to do:
Clean up all manner of bodily fluids
Learn how to cook deceptively healthy meals
Multi-task (my lists have lists…it’s ridiculous)
Survive newborn insomnia (twice)

Things we’ve gotten to do:

 

Explore the World

 

Wrangle Snakes

 

Be Elvis

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Watch Baseball–Go Cards!

 

Wrestle Alligators

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Things I’ve learned:

Compassion
Appreciation (thanks Mom…this is so hard)
Patience
Baby wrangling
The perfect tickle technique
Surrender
LOVE

From an existential perspective, I’m raising two kids alongside of a writing career (and when I say writing career, I mean I work in the basement, stringing together bits of writing time like seed beads on a string).

Since leaving my teaching job in 2009, I’ve decided to focus on what is most important to me: being the heart of my family. At times, I get all charged up to go back to work, thinking “I’m smart, I’m driven, I’m not a Stepford wife, I’m not Mrs. Cleaver.” Many days I am completely out of my head BORED, but then I look at these two kids and wonder, “Who will if not me?” And it’s an existential question, not a practical one. Yes, I can find a good sitter, but I know that deep down–for me–I HAVE to do this. When I think of the big picture of my life, I want to stay home with my kids until they are in school. Then, I want a career that allows me to be available for them if they get sick or have a school holiday.

I wasn’t always that way. I was the uber-independent woman who never had a relationship that lasted longer than two months. Before meeting my husband, I wasn’t even sure I wanted to have kids. Then the right man made his way into my life, we birthed two little ones, and now here we are. This change has not been smooth for me. In fact, it’s reached dark night of the soul status a few times.

On a regular basis, I ask myself tough meaning-of-life questions like: Who am I? What am I doing? Sometimes it’s not for philosophical reasons either. Sometimes I’m just so frazzled or exhausted that I literally roam around my house trying to figure out what it is that I’m trying to do. Oh yeah. There’s my cup of coffee.

There is no singular way to raise a family; my way is a work in progress. Even though I may not have much time or energy to craft the great American novel, I know that I’ve dedicated this small piece of my life to my two best creations. Eventually, my little pieces of immortality will go out into the wide world and be my little ambassadors, representing all the love and care (and time outs) I’ve given them. And that’s my bigger picture.

To all the mommies of kindergartners: good job and try not to cry too much.

To Xavier: Have a good first day at school. I love you.


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*Originally posted on The Literary Ladies Blog

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Our Malaysian Indian American Dream

My husband, though now Christian, was raised Hindu in the Muslim country of Malaysia. Ha! Does that make your head spin? In this week’s post, I’m going to take you with me to the foreign land of Malaysia. To the country where my husband lived before pursuing his American Dream with me.

Malaysia is a modern country and an amazing place to visit. The food is INCREDIBLE...just ask Anthony Bourdain. The scenery is diverse with its fair share of jungles, beaches, and temperate highlands. The capital of Kuala Lumpur is a bustling metropolis with impressive architecture like the Petronas Twin Towers.

In Malaysia, families choose between schools that are taught primarily in one of three languages: Tamil (an Indian dialect), Chinese, or Malay (the native language). All schools still teach their students Malay and English (because Malaysia was an English colony and is still a part of the Commonwealth).

Even though Sudhagar is Indian, he attended Malay school for his primary and secondary education, and then went to junior college (which is like American community college). In all of these places, he met many Malay students, along with some Chinese and some other Indians.

This is where the post gets political. Gasp! Here we go…

The native Malays, or Bumiputera, are the majority group and their interests have been represented by the same governing party since Malaysia’s independence in the 1950s. The reason why so many Malays got to go to college while my husband was going through the education system (in the late 90s and early 2000s) is because the Malays get preferential treatment by the government. Even currently in the 2013-2014 school year, of the 41,573 openings at Malaysian colleges, only 19% were filled by ethnic Chinese and only 4% by ethnic Indians. When Sudhagar went through college, even fewer minorities were accepted, much less given the opportunity of a scholarship. Even though Sudhagar was very smart, he was still an Indian and there just weren’t enough scholarships available for “someone like him.”

I’m too young to have lived through the Civil Rights Movement, but the treatment of minorities in Malaysia definitely stirs up things in me. The words of MLK’s “I Have a Dream” speech really hit home when I realize that my husband does not get treated equally by the government of his homeland.

Not only did Sudhagar miss out on equal opportunity for education, but other preferential policies include quotas for the following: housing, positions in government, and ownership of businesses.

Sudhagar came to America in 1997 with the simple dream of pursuing a better education than the one he could get in Malaysia. He had every hope of returning to his homeland after his studies.

But then he met me. When he started looking for his first job out of graduate school, we seriously considered moving to Malaysia to be near his family (who all still live there) and I was ready for the adventure of it.

How cool would it be to live in a land where monkeys can wander into your house? I’ve actually seen that! Or you can trek through the jungle. Check. Or be thisclose to a snake charmer with a cobra. Seen that too–twice.

But when we went to visit Malaysia for the first time together, many of Sudhagar’s friends and family members told him to never come back. “There’s no opportunity for Indians here,” they said. Even his high school teacher (also ethnic Indian) told him, “You’re better off in America or Australia. That’s where my sons went to work.”

So Sudhagar and I have opted for the American dream, not because Malaysia’s a terrible place, simply because it will not offer us equal opportunity due to the color of Sudhagar’s skin. And, I guess, the color of my skin, too.


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*Originally posted on The Literary Ladies Blog

*Photos courtesy of Nic Walker from Flickr Creative Commons

Family Closeness: How Do You Bridge Two Continents?

Six. Weeks. My in-laws visited for six weeks!

 

My two reactions:

1) Yay! I’ll have extra help and I can, thank you God, actually leave the house without a kid and an infant. Which equals freedom to write, freedom to visit friends, freedom to go grocery shopping without a million requests for snacks or toys.

2) Oh. That means I’m in charge of anticipating and fulfilling the needs of two extra people. And I don’t want to take advantage of them by leaving them with the kids too much. Okay, now I’m stressed.

So I oscillated back and forth between these two viewpoints, but for the most part existed somewhere in a balanced place.

Long visits like that aren’t really common in the US of A, but when you have an international family (and traveling between opposite sides of the world takes 36 hours PLUS plane tickets cost thousands of dollars) they are necessary. When I visited my sister in Australia, we visited for five weeks, with a two-week jaunt to Malaysia and Bali. Whenever we visit Malaysia, we go for three weeks because that’s the max vacation time Sudhagar can get.

So what do you do for six weeks to keep the entire family happy?

Amah and Ayah (Telegu for Mom and Dad) never visited America, so we decided to show them our home state of Missouri, exploring:

 

Above: Columbia–The Quad at University of Missouri

 

Above: Kansas City–Union Station

 

Above: Saint Louis–Botanical Gardens

What really occurred during these six weeks is we got to connect as a family: laughing, playing, loving, talking, crying (when we said our good-byes). And we don’t get to do that on the same continent very often. Overall, it was a good trip.

 

Now the house is very quiet. Ari cries from separation anxiety whenever I leave the room because she’s used to two extra sets of arms to hold her. Xavier starts Kindergarten next week and he’ll have to tell Mama and Thathaya (Grandma and Grandpa) about his five-year-old adventures via Skype. Sudhagar and I have been inundated with housework, because–as Joni Mitchell says–you don’t know what you got ’til it’s gone.

We miss you guys. We love you guys. Until next time, we’ll Skype.


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*Originally posted on The Literary Ladies Blog

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Stress Busters for Moms and Writers: Spirit

In this series I’ve covered ways to deal with stress in your  body and mind, so this week we’ll finish up with de-stressing your spiritual side. It doesn’t really matter what your religious background is or even if you have a religion at all. We, as humans, have a spirit/soul/something that makes us more than just biological tissues with a brain. If you don’t feed your soul, all kinds of nasty emotions surface and the result is an unhappy person. So here are some ways to reconnect with the inner you.

Spirit Lady’s Top Tips for a Healthy Mind

  1. Find your passion. Oprah would say that we should ultimately choose a job that we’re passionate about, but not all of us have the luxury of doing that exact thing right now. For example, I’m passionate about writing, but I’m currently aSAHM and spend most of my day caring for my two kids, housekeeping, and making meals. But! I schedule a one hour window before the baby wakes up to dedicate to writing tasks. If I don’t take the time for myself, I become one crabby mama.
  2. Connect to something greater. Pray or go to church. Meditate. Hug a tree. I don’t care what you do as long as you’re pondering the vastness of our universe. Now I can hear you groaning, “Ugh! Meditation is really hard,” so I’ll let you in on a little secret. I don’t just sit and meditate. Gasp! I can’t because my kids are running around and I can’t just leave the baby unsupervised. However, I can follow along with a guided meditation in the car, then if I get distracted, I just come back to the person’s voice. Dr. Doreen Virtue is one of my favorites. Or I listen to meditation music while I write or take a walk.
  3. FREEDOM! Remember when you were a kid and you had absolutely no responsibilities and you could play outside with the neighbor kids for hours? Give yourself a window of freedom in your schedule where you can do anything. Or nothing. I love to watch TV, read, or go for walks during my free time.
  4. Deal with burnout. We’ve all experienced it, but just ignoring burnout will make things much worse. Burnout happens to me sometimes as a mom, because I’m just so tired of feeling like Cinderella and the Little Old Woman in the Shoe combined. And–ha!–I only have two kids. So here’s how I deal. First of all, embrace the crashing and burning phase where you feel absolutely awful, need to talk it out, scream, cry, whatever. We are humans and must deal with emotion, so give yourself a full day for a pity party. Then change it up. Make your life different even if it’s in a small way. Enroll in a funk dance class, try a new route to work or the grocery store, or rearrange your furniture.

With spring finally arriving (thank God), I hope we can all put our winter blues aside for several months. Hope you enjoyed this series on eliminating stress from your life.

You can find the stress busters for body here.

And the stress busters for mind here.

I’m Spirit Lady. Enjoy the journey 


Camille Faye | Author of Voodoo Butterfly

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*Originally posted on The Literary Ladies Blog

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